Once a CHEATER ALWAYS a CHEATER!

As i wrote the title to this blog i cant help but laugh. Its just so popular. So, what do u think, once a cheater always a cheater? I beg to differ.....here are my reasons why, please feel free to contradict me, ill enjoy it! ;)

CHEAT is defined by the dictionary as: "to defraud; swindle: 2. to deceive; influence by fraud: 3. to elude; deprive of something expected" AND "a person who acts dishonestly, deceives, or defrauds: [She] /He is a cheat and a liar."

Fair enough right, "you fuking cheater. ur an asshole..." blah blah blah, im sure many of you, including myself; yes ive cheated, i will get to that shortly, have heard this one way or the other. Now if you have never been cheated on kudos to u my friend, send me a pix n ill post it on my blog and let the world know u r 1 in a billion trillion gazillion who have not been cheated on, lol. But, perhaps u didnt know and u never came to find out... so maybe i dont want your pix afterall, haha jk [just kidding].

I believe there are tons of reasons y a person will cheat. In no particular order, except number 1, ahah.

1. TEMPTATION: the #1 on my list this bitch is everywhere. Shes next to me right now but i say "NO!" lol, but seriously, u know what i mean.

2. LUST: defined by the dictionary as "intense sexual desire or appetite 2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness" - now she is temptations wing woman, they go hand in hand, they are buddies and their mission is to get you! ahahah, when someone or something looks appetizing u start to desire it. It can become almost an obsession. When u want some1/thing u cant have, it becomes even MORE desirable...

3. DEMANDING: ok, demads are not pretty. When u start to demand something from ur partner it starts to become annoying and tiring. Ive been thru this and it was a disaster. It was like being in a bubble, restricted and alone. I couldnt do anything, talk to anyone, look at anyone or i'd get slapped, ok not really but u know what i mean. Another x was too demanding od spending time with er, i mean come on. Geez, how can i miss you if im always with u? ugh...Demands should not HAVE to be met they should be done willingly. ASK dont DEMAND!

4. NETWORKS: i think this is a new one, damn u Twitter, FB, MySpace, Friendster, lez.com, Dinah, and who knows what else. A friend of mine told me that they found out their gf/bf was cheating because there was unusual activity on their FB account. EX: pictures, wall to wall posts and DM's [direct messages] No how stupid r u to 1. give ur bf/gf access to ur acct [unless ur not doing anything then ok, n this is where #3 also comes in] 2. post pictures with the "other" person [u get a SLAP for that one] and 3. post wall to wall comments that u KNOW will be seen by everyone especially ur bf/gf. And word of mouth as well, ur bf/gf is for sure to have friends on the acct and gossip travels quikly people. A note of advice to y'all and my friend thats so not worth your time or anyone and its disrespectful which comes to my next point.

5. DISRESPECT: This is a big one. However, i believe there are some boundaries. One of my x's was so anal about disrespect that i couldnt even look at another girl even if i didnt really mean to look in that "daam lemme check u out" kind of way. She automatically assumed that i wanted her or we were talking to ea. other with our eyes, lol seriously? WOW, thats y shes an x. ahahah. I think however, that its ok to talk to a stranger if its in a friendly way. For ex: im outside smoking and a girl asks me "do u have an xtra cig?" ok, sure y not? and then its followed by "thank u" and if shes friendly and doesnt have friends to go back to she might spark up a conversation and thus the chatting begins. Does this mean she wants me? no, or maybe, but if and only if she crosses that line then u tell her "oh thank u but i have a gf"and hand her a CAUTION flyer! WOOT! =D now if ur unhappy, next point...

6. UNHAPPINESS: u tell her here take my number [theres a reason y u dont take hers!] but i wont give out me secrets, lol jk, i will pass on the torch to u ladies. You dont take hers so that if u get a text or a call from an unkown number u have an xcuse as to why and u dont know who it is, u know play dumb. lol. If you are truly unhappy with your current bf/gf then u have only yourself to blame. Why in Gods name are u still there dealing with #1-5? idk, enlighten me please, unless like one of my friends said, and i quote "if you cheat it's because your so over it but dont feel the security to leave the forst person for the other..'safety issues'" i agree, sometimes people cheat as a way"out" if you would of a relationship because they dont have the balls or guts or courage to tell their bf/gf they want it to be over. Ive done it, im guilty, and oddly enough it didnt work. Lol, go figure.

7. THE 80/20 RULE: Idk [i dont know] if most of you have heard about this one. ill break it down for u. You have 80% of a woman at home [wifey gf/bf whatever] meaning she cooks, cleans, does ur laundery, puts ur slippers on, irons ur clothes, makes u lunch for work, dinner EVERYTHING! BUT, 20% is still missing. Maybe sex, hot steamy mind boggling sex, or sex appeal, kinky stuff, attractiveness, u get my drift. Back to #1 and #2 TEMPTATION and LUST. The result: CHEATING! just because that 20% you are missing at home was calling ur name in that tight mini skirt with that tight shirt that was showing her goodies. Lol. The downfall of course is, if you get caught ur gf/bfmight break up with u and so now u have that 20% but she has no clue how to do any of the 80%! My friend said "cheating is ok, unless u get caught" lol.

8. BEING TOO NICE: Ironic isnt it? My gf brought this one to my attention [thank u babe] She said one of her x's ex told her "you're stupid, y would u buy her everything she wants?" Apparently my babe spoiled her ex, and this caused the x to turn her feelings from liking her to taking advantage of her. Thus, the x would just keep taking all the presents but really was just taking advantage of my babe's kindness, lol. Oh well, lesson learned huh? Advice: dont spoil her/him too much it might get a little overwheling and they might take your presents and give them to the person they are cheating on u with. bummer.

9. COMMUNICATION: It has been said that this one is a real important one too. Of course it is, without communication how can u even begin to know what your partner is thinking. Unless of course u have been with them for a while then u know them like the back of your hand or so you think. If there are things that bother you they should be communicated this way u know and understand ea other and are on the same page. None communication can b a factor in cheating and it tends to turn boring, blah.

Last but certainly NOT least...

10. ISSUES: Now this can be a number of things. Child hood stuff up to the present. The lack of a parent, security issues, anything that has to do with who "they" are. Feel me, i cant really elaborate because this one is so diverse and it can literally b anything.

So, these are MY 10 things on y people might cheat. If i missed any important ones let me know. Now, i know u all wanted to know when i cheated etc. Here it goes.

Temptation and Lust along with demands, communications and the 80/20 rule are what lead me to cheating. ahahah, ok no seriously, as ive said temptation and lust are everywhere and unfortunately they came my way. I let my hormones get the best of me, i didnt think with my heart or my head. I got up in the moments, one too many times. I felt bad after the fact, and a cheater will tell u this. Girls ask "dont u think bout it? didnt u think about me? Didnt u think it would hurt me?" Honestly NO, i didnt. Why? because i WAS caught in the moment I WASNT THINKING, ladies please dont waste ur time asking these questions because they are gonna answer what u want to hear "yes but..." the truth of the matter is they werent thinking bout u, they were thinking about getting what they wanted and what was in the moment. I dont beleive people cheat because they trully want to but because it really does just happen [sometimes]. Just because i cheated doesnt mean i didnt LOVE the person i was with and i hate the fact that when your caught or u decide to be truthful about the one question always asked is "why i thought u loved me?" I mean is it a rhetorical question i mean come on!

Another one of myproblems is the fact that i can completely shut off! Like if i had an On n OFF Button. One of my x's told me once "YOU have NO heart! U are cold and dont give a fuk!" i said ok. I knew it, so what? Its a gift but it is also a burden, and thats something i need to learn to control. This is a WHOLE NEW BLOG! lol...

Ive felt love before and i know what it is to love and be loved, i know what it is to feel pain and cause pain and thru my relationships i have learned and grown into the person i believe i am today. Ive changed in many ways ask my bff [hi amor] I can be everything u want me to be but i can also be your worst nightmare! Im a sweet person, im funny [huh vixen? lol, since she said in her last blog that i entertained everyone at skeelos bday dinner] im outgoing and im the shiet! lol, [jk] because that is who i truly am...

I hope u guys enjoyes my blog and ill check u later. Dont forget cLub CAUTION this sat 4.17.10 bak at Marty's 4.17.10 located at 5137 York Blvd LA 90024!

i leave u with this from my friend and i quote "cheating doesnt bring anything good...its never ok to do it no matter what the reason is, BUT it does happen"

<3,
sLax